RESULT

I AM NOT SAFE

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Safety = survival.Feeling unsafe and seeking out potential threats is something that we do instinctively.

However, sometimes our subconscious mind can get out of control and start to perceive threats in the future that aren't necessarily going to happen. This causes us to turn on the 'fight or flight' response by thought alone.

 

Fear, like all other emotions, is basically information. It offers us knowledge and understanding—if we choose to accept it. When we can feel ourselves being held back by fear, we know with certainty that there is a belief of 'I am not safe' underlying this fear. Underlying this fear of not being 'safe' is a fear of not being loved and accepted.

 

The first type of fear: Fear of death or injury.

It's no accident that our subconscious mind was designed to learn as a small child, what is and isn't safe to do in our world. It is a normal, primal instinct to seek safety. But we know better now we're adults right? Not quite. Medical experts tell us that the anxious feeling we get when we're afraid is a standardised biological reaction. It's pretty much the same set of body signals, whether we're afraid of getting bitten by a dog, getting turned down for a date, or getting our taxes audited.

 

Even though most of us have shelter, we have warmth and we have an abundance of food we still have is a subconscious mind that is designed to seek out potential threats and then create programs (beliefs) that keep us safe from those threats. We are genetically wired to do this.

Some fears include fear of heights, fear of flying, fear of water, fear of certain animals etc. These are all ways in which we express our instinctual fear of death/injury.

 

The second type of fear: Fear of not belonging.

The next element to our safety is connection and acceptance. As a being that is created to live as part of a tribe, we naturally seek to be loved and accepted as this also means survival.

If you weren't the same as everyone in your tribe and didn't live the way that they lived, you would run the risk of being shunned and would then be out in the wilderness all on your own ~ with little chance of survival. This is why in modern times when we feel unloved or alone, we can often feel panicked, anxious and unsafe.

 

Now, there are situations in our modern day lives that are most certainly going to make us feel unsafe {and with good reason}. What we need to realise in these extreme situations is that quite often, the threat is in the past but the belief is still controlling us in the present. A great deal of us have beliefs that we create to keep us safe, oftentimes from living life the way we really desire it to be.

 

 

Example:

If I start the business and I lose all my money/fail --> my wife might leave me (I will lose love)

If I start the business and I lose all my money/fail --> I will be judged (not accepted)

 

Some of the ways in which a lack of safety will show up are:

• I am helpless

• I am trapped

• I am not safe financially

• I am not safe physically

• I am not safe emotionally

• I am not safe in certain situations {home alone, darkness, social}

• I am not supported

• I am suffocated

• I can't trust

• It's not safe to trust

• I can't be vulnerable

• It's not safe to be vulnerable

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Below you will see a button that gives you access to an activity that will help lead you to the root cause of this wound.

 

 

 

 

If you wish to work with me, we will go to go back in time and remove those beliefs and reframe those moments where you created them to let the emotional strong hold it has over you go forever!

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One last thing to mention is that some of your answers align with those of someone with chronic stress or PTSD. If you feel that you wish to get support to eleviate chronic stress, PTSD or complex trauma then please contact me for support.